Second Chances

This post is one of those where it's not something all happy / lively / fun that is happening in my life but instead one of those deep thought blog posts.

It's just my thoughts on chances.. more importantly, second chances.

Here's the thing. We are all humans. We are supposed to make mistakes in our lives. That's how we learn from it, grow from it. After all we are not perfect and sometimes we mess up. That is honestly normal and EVERYONE messes up at some point of time in their lives. Be it big or small.

Some people make mistakes unintentionally. Forgive them, forget it and stop harping on it and demoralizing them every chance you get.

Some people do mistakes intentionally. These are classified differently. It could be not a mistake but a plot, it could be that he / she was out of choice and was helpless at that moment. It could be more emotional than anything that caused them to go too with their hearts and forget what their minds are saying.

All I am saying is that you should give people second chances and not let that one mess up affect your relationship with them. And if you are being given a second chance, UTILIZE IT! Be thankful you even got the second chance because it's a high chance you may not even get a third. 

To me, you're supposed to live your life like you won't wake up tomorrow. Problem is, a lot of us are cocky. Cocky that  we'll wake up alive and all fine tomorrow. Death don't really scare us maybe because we are young. But that doesn't mean it can't happen. Can you guarantee me your loved ones will 100% wake up tomorrow? Or even if they are alive, a day has 24 hours. You sure nothing will happen to them at all? Can you promise me that? You can't. I can't. No one can unless you're God.

We create problems. We fight. We make mistakes. There's misunderstandings. But,, why do we hold grudges? Because we believe that we'll wake up tomorrow to a normal day. The people we fight with will wake up all normal. They'll live their lives fine and wake up the following day and nothing devastating will happen. But we are wrong! Because anything can happen as life is unpredictable. 

So, you want to feel bad when you are here wasting your time holding a grudge? One day, that person will leave you for good. They may be diagnosed with a terminal illness, they may have met with an accident. A lot of things can happen.

Sorry, I am not telling anyone to be negative and wish for death upon everyone you love but stop taking their existence for granted.

We all make mistakes and we all fight. The important thing is to learn from it and patch things up. Is your pride really more important that your relationship? Is being the first to say sorry really that hard? Is forgiving someone really that difficult? Is comparing all the amazing time you had and let it outshine that person's mistakes and flaws that a tough thing to do?

You know the answer. I know the answer. We all know the answer. Then why don't we just all start forgiving more. Try to forget negative experiences and remember the good ones we had we one another. Why not start cherishing your loved ones even more and spend time with them. What's the point in posting on our social media how "perfect" and "happy" we are in our relationships (family / friends / boyfriends / girlfriends) when in reality it is just for that day you're on good terms with them?

You are supposed to fight. I still believe that you are NEVER that close and TRUE to someone till you've had fights with them and still love them and live with them. That's why family and best friends are people who you can be truly yourself around.

If you want to end up losing your relationships with people, then so be it. But for those of you who want to fight for the ones you love.. listen to me, Fight! Fight for all you can if you value the person, your relationship over your stupid pride. 

I believe that we should  we should make use of the second chances we have because.. We may never get them again and while we still can we should make amends and rectify our mistakes. It's completely fine to make mistakes. There's no point being a total perfectionist. Actually you know what, aim for perfection because perfect don't exist so why or try to achieve it? It'll do you more good than harm.

I am not only talking about our relationships with others only. Second chances can come in the form of so many things..our desires, our dreams and so on. 

It is good to chase for what we want. But at some point of time stop and ask yourself, "Is that really what you want?" If the answer is yes, then stop chasing and go get it already. If the answer is no, then stop and go after something you'd rather invest more time and effort in.

All I am saying is to treasure what you've got. Do not lose your loved ones just like that. Talk things out, patch things back and be happy. Life is seriously too short for grudges. At the same time, be unhappy but don't be unhappy forever because one day you'll wake up full of regrets wishing you had talk to that someone, spend time with that someone, be with that someone and all you would have wanted to do is to show love but it would be a little too late when they're gone... especially if they're gone for good.

Enjoy life a little more. Love a little more. Dream a little more. Have fun a little more. Push yourself a little more. Strive a little more. Forgive a little more. Fight for what you want a little more. Preserve your relationships a little more. Value your loved ones a little more 

Lastly,

LIVE A LITTLE MORE

With that, I hope y'all have a good week and if you actually take time off and bother to read this, hope you give it a little thought.

xoxo

Farhana Mazlan